Wedding Speeches - Wedding Toasts
The Basics of Giving a Speech
For many people a wedding is their
first real chance to give a large speech in front of an audience.
If this is the case for you then chances are that you may be very
nervous. That's perfectly normal. In fact, most people giving
speeches at weddings probably feel the same way. Even people who
give speeches frequently are often nervous before speaking at a
wedding. Don’t look at your anxiety as a sign of failure. Quite the
opposite, in fact: your nervousness may well be the motivation that you
need to get started on writing the speech. Nervousness is
something that you can use to your advantage as you prepare for your
turn at the microphone. Once you work on your speech, and use the
techniques in this guide, your nervousness will start to subside as you
see the progress that you’re making.
One thing that makes wedding speeches so scary is
that guests at a wedding all seem to be waiting for that one speech
that will leave the couple speechless and full of emotion. Many
guests seem to expect a speech that will have a great impact on the
wedding couple. The trick to giving a great wedding speech is
learning how to turn that nervous energy into a memorable speech! There
are several ways to use this nervous energy to your advantage:
• Everyone gets nervous about public speaking. In
fact, some people are more scared of public speaking than they are of
dying! Realizing that you are not the only person who is nervous is
often one of the first steps to overcoming pre-speech jitters.
Putting your nerves into context makes you feel less “alone” in your
anxiety. It also lets you adopt a more controlled attitude about
speech giving. Many other people are also nervous about speeches
and still manage to deliver well composed words despite their
• You have the ideal audience at a wedding. The
wedding guests and Bridal couple that you are speaking to are going to
be a very supportive, close, and interested audience while you are
giving your speech. People will be anxious to hear what you have
to say. The people attending a wedding are there to celebrate the
wedding of two people they know and love, and not to listen to speeches
that are perfect.
• Before you begin work on your wedding speech keep
in mind that speeches that are easier to give are generally less scary,
easier for your audience to listen to, and more effective as well. Many
beginning speech writers want to develop complicated and elaborate
speeches that will really “wow” the audience. However, simplicity
is usually best.
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